Pay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness.
When you believe that your problem is caused by someone or something else, you become your own victim.
To think that I know what's best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what's right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve problems for you.
I am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don't feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.
Peace doesn't require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.
Your suffering is never caused by the person you're blaming.
The whole world is simply my story, projected back to me on the screen of my own perception. All of it.
I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but that when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Freedom is as simple as that. I found that suffering is optional. I found a joy within me that has never disappeared, not for a single moment.
Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation-from anyone. And watch what happens in reality, just for fun.
It's not the problem that causes our suffering; it's our thinking about the problem.
Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.
Until the mind is open, the heart stays closed. The open mind is the key to the open heart.
You can't have an up without a down. You can't have a left without a right. This is duality. If you have a problem, you must already have the solution. The question is, do you really want the solution, or do you want to perpetuate the problem?
Fear has only two causes: the thought of losing what you have or the thought of not getting what you want.
People try so hard to let go of their negative behaviors and thoughts, and it doesn't work, or it works only for a short time. I didn't let go of my negative thoughts; I questioned them, and then they let go of me, and so did my addictions and depression.
We do not mature through age. We mature in awareness.
It's quite an amazing experience to see the same life with and without the thought. We come to see how crazy a thought can make us when we believe it.
Suffering over things that have happened to us is nothing more than an argument with the past.
The most important relationship is the mind's relationship with itself. In other words, the ultimate - and, really, the only - relationship you have is the relationship with your own thoughts.
If you want real control, drop the illusion of control; let life have you. It does anyway. You’re just telling yourself the story of how it doesn’t.
Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.
Stress is an alarm clock that lets you know you're attached to something not true for you.